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  Russian Allure

  Women That Men Live For

  Oksana Boichenko

  and

  Maria Derevyanko

  www.OksanaLove.com

  Introduction

  Chapter 1: Before it all begins

  Starting your search for a Russian bride, or “would you like fries with that?

  Are you man enough

  Dating blind

  Chapter 2: The mystery of Russian women

  America vs. Russia: it’s more than politics

  Many faces of Russian women

  What your Russian bride can do for you

  Russian Russian vs. American Russian

  Chapter 3: All about you

  What Russian women want

  What about Russians, or why American men are a better fit for hot girls from Russia

  Myths Russian women have about foreign men

  Russian woman will never be yours, if…

  Chapter 4: A perfect start - Time to choose your woman.

  Long before dating a Russian woman

  Ready, set, dream

  Chapter 5: Marketing yourself

  Don’t sell yourself cheap

  Create a Unique Personal Proposition (UPP)

  Chapter 6: Communicating with your Russian bride

  Your communication

  What your Russian bride is not saying

  Phone rules

  The language challenge

  Chapter 7: How to…

  Feeling shy? Start dating hot girls

  A gift from a perfect gentleman

  This will get you a young Russian bride

  Chapter 8: Turning dating into marriage

  Is your Russian bride ready to settle with you?

  Here, there, anywhere

  Dating like a pro

  How to lose any Russian woman in 30 seconds

  My Russian bride dumped me – what next?

  Chapter 9: Practical guide to visiting your Russian bride

  The real Russia

  Gifts for your Russian bride

  How to impress the family of your Russian woman

  Internet access

  Money: information, costs, safety

  Emergency during travel – when you should panic

  Health and safety advice,

  Travel checklist

  Chapter 10: Bringing your Russian bride home

  Why Russian women don’t travel abroad to find a husband

  Bringing your Russian bride home: visa options

  Important INS keepsakes

  Long distance dating survival guide

  Get your girl to speak English, now!

  Learn to speak Russian English

  From dating to marriage

  Cultural 911: helping your Russian bride adjust

  New culture: Russian women and career

  Introducing your Russian bride to family and friends

  Easy ways to ruin your marriage

  When your Russian bride is homesick

  Five years from now…

  Bonus: Scam me NOT

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  - Scammer profiles

  - Inside operations of scam agencies

  - Letter templates con artists use to get your money

  - “Wages” of scammers

  - 7 simple steps to check if your Russian woman is real

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  “There’s nothing better- looking than a good-looking Russian woman.“

  Diana Vreeland

  Style editor and Harper’s Bazaar 1936-1962

  and editor in chief of Vogue 1963-1971

  Ms. Vreeland’s love of anything beautiful and distaste for the pedestrian.

  There’s only one very good life and that’s the life you know you want and you make it yourself. Within every girl in Russia is the possibility of arousing emotion. Without emotion there is no beauty. You know the greatest thing is passion, without it what have you got? I mean if you love someone you can love them as much as you can love them but if it isn’t a passion, it isn’t burning, and it isn’t on fire: you haven’t lived.

  And you haven’t lived if you are not married to a Russian woman who is not passionate about you. Which is what I can do for you better than anyone else in the world…to help you find that one beautiful Russian woman you were born to love and be with. Yours dream of having loving and passionate relationship doesn’t have to be just a dream. You are entitled to have it your reality.

  Manolo Blahnik once stated “You put high heels on, you change”. In Russia every women wears high heels everyday of her life for everything she does…which is perhaps what makes her so emotionally passionate to be with….

  INTRODUCTION

  This book could have been called “90 days to a happy marriage” - the less poetic name because, according to the US government requirements, that’s all you have to marry your true love. Yes, you read it right – when you bring someone from abroad to your country, you only have 90 days to become closely acquainted, get engaged, plan your wedding, and get married. Not very romantic, but that’s what you got. Not a day more, not a minute more, not a second more – you have 90 days to establish your relationship and create a happy marriage.

  While you will say goodbye to romantic encounters, your life will become more exciting through many other experiences, you will look at things you’ve taken for granted in a new way. I remember my first week in the USA. I remember my first visit to McDonald’s. You see, in my country, Kazakhstan, we didn’t have McDonalds (and still don’t), so for me the drive-through experience at McDonald’s was equal to a restaurant visit. I was happy like a child while sitting in the passenger seat, looking at the menu pictures, pulling up to the window, and getting a friendly greeting from the cashier. Why? Because being served with a smile was not something I could expect in my country. I went through McDonald’s drive-through every chance I
had (oh, the excitement of beautiful menus, cute condiments, and delicious cheeseburgers I never knew existed!); that was an experience I would never forget. I’ve lived in America for 15 years and eventually, just like you, I found little excitement in going through the drive-through at McDonald’s until I had a visit from my Kazakhstan friends who reminded me how exciting such experience can be to someone who’s never had it before. Little things like this change the way we see our life, it becomes interesting and exciting when you see it through someone else’s eyes.

  How do I know that creating a happy family in 90 days is possible? I know this because it happened to me. I came to this country with a dream to create a family; I was willing to give up romance, a beautiful wedding, having my parents by my side during the ceremony for the sake of creating a happy future with the man I loved. And I am not an exception – there are hundreds of women who followed their dream to come to America and were married before their 90 days were up.

  In fact, during my 17 years of working as a personal matchmaker, I’ve seen people making it happen in much less time. I’ve tested the possibility of finding a perfect woman for my clients and have the two get married in 90 days more than once and included all my findings in the matchmaking program “90 days: life transformation system.”

  As you see, the strategy I offer you in this book is based on many years of experience. I do more than offer dating advice – I give you marriage oriented advice to help you build a happy family and make your union with the woman of your dreams successful. The reason most of my clients come to me is to meet a sincere, authentic, drama-free, considerate, beautiful, educated, feminine, passionate, driven, unique woman with whom they can create a solid relationship based on traditional family values – and they do. They get tangible, quality results through meeting and finding the right woman and building a serious relationship without wasting their time and efforts in empty pursuits. Now I offer the same package to you: I will help you find and meet a real woman who will fulfill your dreams and become a part of your life through marriage (I can already imagine how jealous all your friends will be!).

  There is a catch though. When looking for that perfect Russian woman, you have to be able to make quick decisions because it is too easy to miss perfect opportunities. I’ve seen it happen many times: while a man takes his time making a decision about his future pursuits, the woman he likes meets someone else who sees her for the treasure she is, and becomes involved in a serious relationship. In fact, the same goes for Russian and Eastern European women who currently live in the United States. Basically, if you snooze, you lose. However, since you are reading this book, I know you will avoid this pitfall.

  So, we are going to focus on 90 days. I will give you exact steps to follow so that you can meet your true love, the woman of your dreams with whom you might want to share your life. I offer you a balanced system; if you follow its core concepts, I guarantee results. All these principles and concepts are easy to apply:

  1) Know what type of a woman you want in your life (yes, it’s quite all right to want to find a beautiful, smart woman!);

  2) Know where you can find her;

  3) Make the right moves to make her fall in love with you and make her want to spend the rest of her life with you.

  This book will give you answers to all these questions. And, if you begin following my advice now instead of waiting for better times, 90 days from now you will tell me that you have someone special in your life. In fact, if you use just a quarter of the information from this book, it will improve your communication and relationship building skills with any woman. I will make an even bigger claim: some of this information may save you thousands of dollars and many hours of using the wrong dating services, writing to the wrong women, and visiting the wrong places.

  Last word of caution: dating a Russian woman is not for anyone – you will have to go above and beyond your usual dating efforts; you might have to change some of the core ideas you have about women, dating, and building a relationship; you will definitely have to adjust and keep an open mind. If you are prepared for this and think you have what it takes to find your perfect “Russian woman”, this book is definitely for you. All right! Ready, set, go!

  CHAPTER 1: BEFORE IT ALL BEGINS

  Starting your search for a Russian bride, or “would you like fries with that?”

  Before you begin your search for a Russian bride, you need to be aware of a very important thing that can make or break any attempt to meet a decent woman from abroad. You may have heard and even used the term “mail order bride”, but if you are serious about finding a wife overseas, you need to forget it once and for all. You are not browsing through a catalog to have an item shipped to you, you are not shopping for an accessory, and you simply cannot order a person!

  Political correctness aside, if you use this term while communicating with Russian women, most of them will refuse to talk to you as to them this term is insulting. Women I can introduce you to are respectful and well established; they have pride and know their worth. To call them a “mail order bride” is to show them disrespect and flaunt your ignorance. They might forgive you, but they will never consider you a potential partner.

  Some men are arrogant and uneducated enough to think that any Russian woman would want to be with them simply because they carry an American or a European passport – they are hugely mistaken. If you are one of them, put this book aside now because in order to win a Russian woman’s heart you must be respectful of other cultures. Please, keep in mind – you have to EARN your woman, and in the following chapters of this book I will tell you HOW to do it.

  Are you man enough?

  Being with a Russian woman is not for everyone. Neither is international dating. It doesn’t matter why you are interested in Russian women – dating someone who lives halfway across the world will test your patience and dedication more than once. Long distance relationships might be great in many ways, but they are harder to manage than a traditional relationship. Still, international relationships are a lot of fun, and when your woman will finally arrive to your country, both of you will say that being together was definitely worth the wait.

  Often men choose international dating because it is a “convenient” option, half the time they don’t have any intention of turning their communication into “the real thing”. If both partners have this attitude, you can do as you please, but if you are the only one to see it that way, you would be giving false hopes to the person on the receiving end. In other words, if you are only interested in a pen pal instead a wife and a lifetime partner, look elsewhere.

  Before you start dating a Russian woman, settle any unfinished issues with other women in your life. It is not uncommon for men to join Russian dating websites and even visit Russian women while they are in fact simply separated from their wives or are on a break from an ongoing relationship. Dating someone from abroad might seem like a safe option at such times, but you will only complicate your own life and, quite possibly, seriously hurt someone’s feelings.

  International dating is an option only for secure people. If you are the jealous type, it will never work for you because you will be constantly questioning your partner and wondering what your Russian lady is up to now. I’ve been a witness to many instances of serious interrogations by men when their women would not be available for a spontaneous phone call, for example. Despite perfectly legitimate reasons, women would end up being questioned up one side and down the other, while a distraught guy would be pulling his hair out with frustration from all suspicions circling in his head.

  You also must consider the issue of travel if you decide to date a Russian woman. Men often want to bring a woman to their country for the first meeting. While this is an option, it is not always easy to accomplish this for a number of reasons: your woman might have difficulty getting a visa for her trip, she might feel unsafe coming to stay with someone she’s never met, and you will not have an opportunity to get to know her in her own surr
ounding. If you are not capable of visiting your potential bride in her country, you might consider planning a meeting on a neutral territory. Whatever the case, you must be prepared to sponsor your lady as she might not be able to afford the trip. Naturally, make sure you have a valid passport for when you finally decide to travel.

  Dating blind

  The beginning of your international dating experience might seem as easy as filling out a profile on an introduction site, but it requires a good deal of preparation – you must have a dating plan before you sit down in front of the computer. In other words, you need to know what you are looking for before diving into hundreds of profiles of gorgeous women. You have to be specific and honest with yourself about your wants, demands, and preferences.

  The best way to organize your thoughts is to write down everything you would want in a partner. Be as specific as you can: height, color of hair and eyes, her likes/dislikes, habits, family situation, and anything else you can think of. Don’t limit yourself – dare to dream and write down as many things as you like; don’t take this lightly – this is done to find out what YOU want and will become the base for the success of your search. Once you have listed all you might want in a partner, prioritize the points you made to make your search fast and easy, but flexible.

  You don’t have to do this, of course, but if you begin your search without a clear idea of what kind of woman you want to be with, you will end up wasting a lot of time and effort by communicating with dozens attractive women who will not satisfy your needs in a relationship. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen!

  In later chapters I will reveal exactly how you can recognize your ideal woman and how you can stay focused on your goal of meeting her resulting in success of your dating journey. This is why the rest of this book will tell you what you need to do and how to do it the best way possible.