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  For Delia, who believed I had my own story to tell.

  For Courtney, my intrepid sister, my comrade-in-arms.

  For Clover, the golden glue, my dearest one.

  For we think back through our mothers if we are women.

  —Virginia Woolf

  The world is violent and mercurial—it will have its way with you. We are saved only by love—love for each other and the love that we pour into the art we feel compelled to share: being a parent; being a writer; being a painter; being a friend. We live in a perpetually burning building, and what we must save from it, all the time, is love.

  —Tennessee Williams

  Prologue

  November 29, 1981

  The voice from the clock radio is tinny and muffled.

  “The body of actress Natalie Wood has been found off the coast of Catalina Island.”

  It is Sunday morning, and I’m sleeping over at my best friend Tracey’s house. I am eleven years old.

  The man on the radio repeats the words “body” and “Natalie Wood.”

  I am no longer asleep, but not yet awake; on the brink of awareness. If I keep my eyes shut, I think, the voice might be part of a dream, which means that if I open my eyes it might be real.

  Now the man on the radio is saying “accident” and “drowned” and my eyes are open so this can’t be a dream. But there has to be some horrible mistake. My mom and stepfather, Robert Wagner, whom I call Daddy, are out on their boat, safe and sound. My dad is the ship’s captain, and my mom is the first mate. They spend weekends on the Splendour all the time.

  I am snuggled in Tracey’s spare single bed, the one her mom put in her room especially for me because I am such a frequent guest. Tracey’s house, in the Bird Streets neighborhood of the Hollywood Hills, is my home away from home. Janis, Tracey’s mother, is my mom away from my mom. How could anything bad happen to me here? Tracey has a brand-new wood-paneled clock radio. It must have gone off at seven by mistake because this isn’t a school day.

  I sit up. I need to call my mom. I go to the living room, but when I get there, the receiver is off the hook and I can’t get a dial tone. I go to find Janis and tell her I need her help. Together we try to call my mom on the boat, but we can’t get through. I decide to call the house. Liz Applegate, my mom’s assistant, picks up.

  “Liz, what are you doing at my house on Sunday?”

  “I’m just working today, lovey,” she says in her familiar British accent.

  Before I can ask her another question, I turn around and my nanny, Kilky, and my dad’s driver, Stanley, have arrived to pick me up. I look at my sweet Kilky for answers, but her face seems frozen, like someone in a fairy tale turned to stone. I immediately know that something is very wrong. Outside, the ground feels cold and damp beneath my bare feet, wet from rain the night before. Why am I allowed to go outside without my shoes on? Wasn’t I supposed to stay at Tracey’s all weekend? I don’t ask these questions. Instead, I climb into the back seat of my mom’s cream-colored Mercedes. Stanley gets into the front seat. He never drives my mom’s car, only my dad’s. What is going on?

  On the way home, thick blankets of clouds hang low in the sky. The world is dim and charcoal gray; everything is blurred around the edges, like a picture postcard submerged in a puddle. After the engine rumbles to silence, the car door opens. We go through the front gate. In the yard, the leaves from our birch tree are scattered on the ground.

  The familiar wooden front door of our house clicks shut behind me, but I don’t feel the usual safety and comfort of returning home. There are too many people here for a Sunday morning, especially since my parents are away. Liz is there. One of my godmothers, Delphine Mann. Our family friends the Benjamins.

  Suddenly, Tracey’s mom, Janis, is here too.

  “What’s going on?” I ask Liz and Janis.

  “We don’t know, lovey,” Liz says. “We’re not sure.” They are grown-ups. Aren’t they supposed to have the answers?

  My dad is going to be home soon. Janis and I go upstairs and crawl into my mom’s bed together to wait for him. The sheets and blankets smell of my mom’s gardenia perfume, of my mother and her warm hugs and soft kisses. As I wrap myself in the familiar scent, Janis strokes my hair, comforting me. I have known and loved her since I was in kindergarten. She’s the physical opposite of my brunette mother, with bleached blond hair, tan skin, and a low, soothing voice. We wonder aloud what happened, why the man on the radio made that awful announcement, saying those words that could not be true.

  “Maybe she isn’t dead. Maybe she just broke her leg,” I say, trying to convince myself.

  Janis agrees. Her voice is warm and gravelly. I snuggle into her embrace and pray to God that Mommie is okay.

  How long do I spend upstairs with Janis? It might be thirty minutes or three hours. Then I hear the front door open and close quietly. I know it is my dad.

  Down the carpeted stairs I step without a sound, still in my nightgown. I’m expecting to see my dad’s familiar face, always smiling, with blue eyes that sparkle when he greets me or my mom or my sisters. But the man at the bottom of the stairs isn’t smiling; his face is ashen and his eyes look pale, haunted, devoid of any light. He doesn’t speak when he sees me and I know in a sudden horrifying flash that it’s all true.

  The floor seems to fall away beneath me. I drop into his arms and we cry together. My seven-year-old sister, Courtney, shuffles down the stairs in her nightie, sleepy-eyed and confused. He pulls her into our embrace.

  “You’re not going to see Mommy anymore,” he says. “But I want you to know that I’m never going to leave you. We’re still a family.”

  I close my eyes. This can’t be real, I tell myself. Even as I hear myself weeping and crying out, “It’s not fair!” I still can’t believe it.

  Minutes or hours pass, I can’t tell. I open my eyes and the house is full of people. Outside the window, reporters, photographers, and TV cameramen perch at our front gate like a roost of crows.

  She’s gone. She’s never coming home again. What’s going to happen to me? To all of us?

  I have no clear memory of the rest of the day. I’m sure I must have eaten and slept, but I don’t know what I ate and I don’t remember going to bed. I just remember that everything seemed different. Our house felt different. It smelled different. There was no safe place for me. I needed a hug from my mom. I needed to hear her voice, but she wasn’t there.

  A few weeks later, once the autopsy is complete, the coroner and the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department conclude that my mother’s death was a terrible accident, without any evidence of foul play. That she had gone down to the dinghy attached to our boat and then likely missed a step, slipping and falling into the water, her water-logged parka weighing her down so she couldn’t hoist herself out. The case was closed.

  * * *

  Losing my mother was the defining moment of my life. No other event would ever again so sharply etch its mark upon my soul, or so completely color the way I navigate the world, or leave my heart quite as broken. We had shared only a little over a decade toge
ther, yet I missed her with such intensity that she remained on the cusp of my every thought, the echoes of her face reverberating back to me each time I looked in the mirror.

  The following year, we moved out of the house in Beverly Hills. It was too sad to stay there any longer without her. My mom had decorated our home to the brim with carved wooden furniture and paintings, knickknacks, photos in silver frames. Everywhere I looked there was another object that led me back to her: the forest-green upright piano she practiced on when she was a little girl; the set of sterling-silver goblets that Spencer Tracy had given to her for her first wedding. After she died, all her belongings were boxed up and taken away, put in storage. My dad let Courtney and me pick out whatever we wanted to take with us to our new house in Brentwood. I chose a few framed photographs and pieces of her jewelry and art, precious mementoes that I would carry with me wherever I went in the world: away to college, to my first apartment, to each place I called home.

  In the years after her death, I learned to protect myself from her memory, afraid I might be subsumed by it. Even with my therapist, whose office I sat in each week after my mom died, I feared that if I examined my mother’s story too closely, it would overwhelm me. Would my rose-tinted view of her be shattered by some ugly truth she had hidden from me? Or would I simply be reminded of how perfectly wonderful she was, generating a fresh wave of devastation over losing her? The joy of loving and being loved by her had ended so abruptly and with such finality that even my happiest recollections of her were difficult for me to think about.

  My mother was famous, which meant I also had to protect myself from other people’s perceptions of her. Whenever a new biography or article came out about Natalie Wood, I ignored it. If authors sent me copies of their books about her, I mailed them right back. I was not interested in what a complete stranger thought about my mother’s life; I only wanted to talk to people who actually knew my mom, her closest friends and confidants. People like my godfather, Mart Crowley, who kept every letter she wrote to him. “Darling, no one was stronger than your mother; she was the strongest of us all,” he often reminds me. My mom’s close friend Delphine told me that when my mother ordered her chopped salads at La Scala she always asked for “no garbanzo beans!” or if she was out to dinner and wanted to touch up her lipstick, she used a knife for a mirror. When you have famous parents there’s so much noise, so many people trying to tell you who your parents really were, that you have to shut yourself off from the chatter. You block it out, relying on the close circle of people you trust and your own memories, of course.

  If I stumbled on an article in a magazine about “The Tragic Life and Death of Natalie Wood” at the doctor’s office, I would scan the piece to see if perhaps they had managed to get something right. Usually there was more that was wrong. The people who wrote the articles seemed to only want to portray my mother as someone who was troubled and deeply depressed at times. Who was my mother? Was it possible I didn’t really know her? Did she put on a cheerful act for her children and live a secret life of despair behind closed doors? The same tabloids have long been fixated on the night of her death and the so-called unsolved mystery of how she drowned. They continue to repeat the same stories, that my mother was allegedly having an affair with the actor Christopher Walken, who was also on the boat, that my dad was jealous, that she had fought with my father on the night she died, that somehow her death was the result of foul play.

  Over the years, when I was asked to comment on my mother’s life, I usually declined. I didn’t want to speak to the press or give interviews about her. I knew people would only want to dwell on the negative or more sensational aspects of my mother’s life and on her death. I didn’t want to join the circus of speculation. I wanted to keep the mother I knew to myself.

  It was only when I became a mom myself, at the age of forty-one, that I began to think about my mother’s legacy in a new way. Might I play some part in telling her story? Soon after my daughter’s birth, I agreed to help put together a book of photographs celebrating my mother. This meant I had to track down as many images of her as possible to fill the book’s pages. It also meant having to pay a visit to her belongings, still boxed away safely in a storage unit in Glendale, California.

  * * *

  The skies over Los Angeles are impenetrable and white, wrapping the city in sticky heat as I drive over to the storage facility where my mother’s possessions are housed. For decades, I’ve avoided coming to this place, reluctant to spend time rummaging around in the past. The only other time I’ve been here was in 1991, as a twenty-year-old, when I visited with my sister, Courtney, selecting a few pieces to keep for myself before fleeing, not wanting to be reminded of the pleasures of my childhood and the pain of my mother’s absence.

  This time around, I’ve decided to approach my trip to the storage unit as a job that needs to be done. I’m here to find photos. I park my car in the lot and make my way toward the building. The storage unit is a large, square, unremarkable concrete block. I walk up the ramp and check in at the front desk. The owner leads me along a corridor and to my mother’s unit. He’s known our family for years, as my mom’s things have been kept here since the early 1980s. He’s kindly, familiar, fatherly in his button-down oxford and khakis. He pushes the mechanism on the front of the giant door and it swings open, like one of those massive doors on a Hollywood soundstage. Appropriate, I think.

  Inside, the temperature dips dramatically. The rooms here are kept chilled, to better preserve their contents. I look around me. I’m in a space about the size of a small bedroom, its walls lined with wooden shelves filled with boxes and books. My mother’s publicity stills and movie posters are strewn across the walls in frames. The scent of old paper and cardboard boxes, of basements and attics, hangs in the air.

  The owner anticipates that I might feel cold so he brings in a small space heater. Then he leaves, closing the giant door behind him. It clicks shut and the outside world is gone.

  I’m here to do a job, I tell myself again. I’m looking for photos. I start pulling out scrapbooks and large leather albums from the shelves. Some of the albums have images inside them but others are filled with all the letters my mother kept, each one pasted carefully in place. My mom was a collector by nature. She saved every letter and card—and our family received many. In the days before texting, email, and social media, everyone mailed letters and thank-you notes. My parents sent vacation photos and postcards when they traveled, and had telegrams, flowers, and presents delivered on special occasions. Here are albums that contain every one of my report cards and birthday cards. I soon find the scrapbooks my grandmother put together, chronicling my mother’s movie career. Inside are yellowed newspaper articles, color-saturated pages from long-lost publications like Screenland and Movie Mirror, transporting me back to the 1940s, when my mother’s career as an actor began.

  Both my parents loved making family memories and recording them, either in writing or with a camera. At home, photos and home movies filled albums, shelves, and boxes. The same is true of the storage unit. On one of the wooden shelves here I see the large velvet photo albums that I remember from my childhood. I open a page in the middle of the book. Here’s a picture of Mommie and me bending down to pet a black goat. I have a knitted cap on my head. My mother crouches over me with a look of wonder and glee on her face, as if she too is seeing a goat for the first time. I remember this about her. Her childlike excitement in step with mine. Her hair is long and chestnut brown, parted in the middle, shining in the sun.

  I flip to another page. We are on the cover of a magazine called Lady’s Circle. The year is 1979. My mom wears a turquoise top and my dad’s turquoise-and-silver necklace. She looks straight into the camera. Professional, poised. I stand behind her, my arm draped casually around her, my smile as big as can be. I look proud, safe, loved.

  I make my way to the end of the book. My mother is standing in the garden of our home on Canon Drive. Her hair is curly, framing her most
lovely face. She smiles; she’s happy. I stand next to her with my arm around her waist. I wear a green-and-white-striped T-shirt. My hair is long and blondish brown—the same color hers was when she was my age. I am older here, probably ten. There is certainty in the smile on my face. The certainty that all is well.

  I stay for hours, exploring the unit, forgetting my duties as a photo researcher. On the ground are stacks of silvery canisters filled with reels of film. Later I learn that many of these are filled with Super 8 movies of my childhood, the early years of her career, outtakes from the films in which she starred. A filing cabinet contains her datebooks starting in 1964 all the way to 1981, the year she died. Here are her bound movie scripts from films like Rebel Without a Cause, the movie she made with James Dean; Gypsy, in which she starred as Gypsy Rose Lee, with Rosalind Russell playing the ultimate stage mother Mama Rose; and Love with the Proper Stranger, her romantic comedy-drama with Steve McQueen. On the top shelves are her awards: her Golden Globes, her international film festival awards. In one corner, I discover a bronze bust of her friend James Dean, whom she always called Jimmy. At the back of the unit I find clear plastic containers filled with her hairpieces from her many movie roles—the small, chocolate-brown ponytail she wore in the movie adaptation of the Tennessee Williams play This Property Is Condemned; the gray, curly wig from the scene in the comedy caper Penelope when her character dresses up as an old lady to rob a bank; the pageboy wig from Inside Daisy Clover, one of my favorite movies of hers, in which she plays a tomboy misfit who makes it big in Hollywood—all her hairpieces yet none of her hair.

  It’s getting late. I really should leave. But as I’m getting ready to go, I notice a battered cardboard carton that looks like it’s about to be thrown away. I open it, sifting through the unrelated papers and objects. I pull out a notebook and open it. I realize I am holding one of her journals in my hands. On the first page is a handwritten note, taped in place, that reads: “Two lonely stars with no place in the sun, found their orbit—each other, and then they were one.” Underneath, my mother explained that this was the note that she had given to Robert Wagner, my stepfather, on the first anniversary of their falling in love, the same day they became engaged.