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  Contents

  The Dome of God

  The Perfect Prick

  The Benefits of Smoking

  Let's Get It On

  Mission Trip

  A Ledger of Your Sins

  Lesbianism: The Right Choice for Girls

  The Blue Bird of Happiness

  What I Knew About Love

  Satan’s Lab Partner

  Dance, Then, Wherever You May Be

  Our Beauty Was a War

  We Were Everywhere

  The Only Goth Dyke in the Grass Seed Capital of the World

  Wild Dogs and Lesbians

  Tiresias at Prom

  What You Carried for Me

  Mixtape Playlist

  Acknowledgements

  Credits

  About Karelia Stetz-Waters

  Ooligan Press Acknowledgements

  Colophon

  Forgive Me If I’ve Told You This Before

  Karelia Stetz-Waters

  For queer kids everywhere. Hang in there.

  The Dome of God

  Half-orphaned Isabel Avila sat beside me on the bench in the Camp Luther Grove dining hall, her dark hair pulled into a high side ponytail. “It wasn’t Triinu’s fault,” she said. “Jared is like one of those rednecks who drives around with a big antenna on his truck listening to the police scanner because he can’t get into the police school because he’s, like, a pervert or something. He’s like that … only for God.”

  Pastor Brown looked at Isabel. He was probably thinking about her father who had died last year, just after Isabel turned thirteen. Then he looked back to me, probably thinking about my mother (president of the altar guild) and my father (church council member for three terms running). He sighed, probably thinking about Jared Pinter, the volunteer interim youth minister I had not-really stabbed in the groin with a Bic pen.

  “You know you’re in high school now,” he began.

  That too was technically incorrect. We were going into high school at the beginning of September. That was why we were at Camp Luther Grove for summer “Fun in the Son.”

  Jared had brought it on himself, really. Every summer, shortly before school resumed, the whole Avila family and I would pile into their bumper-stickered van and head out to Camp Luther Grove. Waiting for us at the end of a dusty road were cabins, tents, pop-up trailers, and kids camping on blue tarps. Children, grandmothers, and teenagers alike wandered the grounds, occasionally popping into the rec room to fashion a macramé bracelet. Isabel and I had always had the same agenda: eat as much candy as possible, talk to as few adults as we could, and spend absolutely every free minute in the creek. It was 1989, and it was still okay for children to be feral. We knew how to swim and there were no poisonous snakes, so the adults let us be. I had never stabbed anyone. I had never even used the Lord’s name in vain.

  Then this year, one evening at about twilight, when Isabel and I had been heading down to the creek to put our toes in the water and talk about which of the New Kids on the Block we were going to marry, Jared shot out of a cabin like a Ken doll in a slingshot.

  “Hello fellow Christians!” he called out. “Isn’t it a great night to be godly?”

  Pastor Brown was right; we were growing up. A year earlier, we would have simply run into the night, shrieking. As it was, we stopped and dropped our heads.

  “Isn’t God grrreat?” Jared said, imitating Tony the Tiger and punctuating the statement with a finger pointed skyward, as though God was a big blimp hanging directly over Camp Luther Grove. “Why don’t you come in with the rest of the group and learn an awesome new church song?”

  It was my fault. Isabel had the guts to say no, but I hedged. Always the apologist, I said, “Well, maybe we should go in and all. I mean, it’s just one night.” And before I knew it we were inside the cabin surrounded by older teenagers. It smelled like damp socks, and there was no candy.

  “Okay,” Jared said. “Let’s hit this.” He made some ridiculous chuffing sound into his hands and the group began to chant.

  “I believe in God. That guy is almighty, and he has a son. That guy’s the cool one. It’s Jesus! It’s Jesus!”

  Jared drummed on an imaginary drum set.

  “He frees us!” the group chanted.

  “Come on girls,” Jared said. “You should know the words by now. He frees us!”

  We were not used to this. Church belonged to adults like my parents. Sometimes the adults would spat over the propriety of talking in the sanctuary before church or how frequently to serve communion.

  Occasionally Isabel and I would bicker over our own differences. She hated going to church. I liked being an acolyte. Every Sunday, the altar guild tucked me into the red-and-white acolyte robes. Thus transformed, I followed Pastor Brown through the ancient movement of the liturgy. I felt called. Isabel thought it was all a bunch of baloney, but then I might have thought that, too, if God decided to give my father cancer and make him die. So we didn’t talk about it.

  One thing was clear, though: God belonged to the adult world, and youth belonged to us. God never used slang, and He certainly did not want to hear the Righteousness Rap for a third time.

  Isabel put a finger to her forehead and pulled an imaginary trigger.

  When the group finally stopped chanting, Jared took out his Bible. “So kids, what passage do you want to talk about today?” Without waiting for an answer he said, “How about Leviticus 20:13.” He opened his Bible. “Who wants to read?”

  A girl with aggressively permed bangs waved her hand as though it was on fire. “Me! Me!” she said, and began to read: “‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.’”

  I looked at Isabel and furrowed my brow.

  “What the fuck?” she mouthed.

  Forbearing Emmanuel Lutherans did not talk about damnation; they talked about salmon bakes. Agape love. The Mother-Daughter Fashion Show. My mother said that there was a hell, but there was no one in it. No one got blood on their heads.

  “What does this passage mean to you?” Jared asked.

  The room was quiet for a long time.

  “Fine,” Jared said. “I’m going to give you all a piece of paper and a pen, and we’re going to write down some of our thoughts. I want you all to ask yourselves if God will save the ho-mo-sexuals.” He pronounced each syllable separately. “Then write your answer on the paper.”

  Isabel took a pen and wrote on her paper, “What’s for dinner?” I shook my head. She wrote, “Jesus!” We had an ongoing joke about Jesus. As far as we could tell, every Sunday school question could be answered with the word “Jesus.” I pretended to focus on my own paper, but out of the corner of my eye I saw her write a few more lines and push the paper back to me: “What causes gravity? Jesus! Who won the Super Bowl? Jesus!”

  I really didn’t understand why everyone was so fond of Jesus. Now that my mother was taking Pastor Brown’s adult Bible study class, she referred sometimes to the “historical Jesus.” I held nothing against that man. Poor Jesus, with his dusty sandals and his wild ideals. I wanted to follow him to Gethsemane and put my hand over his praying palms. “Stop, Jesus,” I would have said. “God will forgive our sins without all this mess.”

  But the historical Jesus was not the Jesus served up during Sunday school. The Sunday school Jesus had risen from the pages of a Christian coloring book and would not return to his tomb. He was like Isabel’s older brother: jovial and bossy, with thick ankles and freshly scrubbed hair.
Jesus loved us and forgave us, but he counted the change in our offering envelopes as though we might cheat the pastor of his quarters.

  A few minutes later, Jared told us to stop writing. “So,” he said. “Will God save the ho-mo-sexuals?”

  “Jesus,” Isabel said meditatively.

  I could not look at her. Even if I could keep a straight face, I feared my spleen might start giggling as Jared solemnly agreed, “You are so right, Isabel. He’s the answer to all questions, isn’t He? So, will Jesus save the homosexuals?”

  Ursula Benson, whom I recognized as an occasional Sunday school student from the other side of town, raised her hand. Isabel and I rolled our eyes at each other. The last time Ursula had been fun was the day she got kicked out of Mrs. La Farge’s sixth-grade Sunday school class for not sitting like a lady. Now she just liked to talk.

  “Why are you even asking us?” Ursula demanded from beneath plum-colored bangs. She must have been commandeered by Jared’s surprise slingshot attack. She would never have come to something like this on her own.

  Jared folded his hands on his lap and nodded with regretful concern. “I am asking because you can be the arm of God’s salvation through Jesus Christ our savior.”

  “You want me to tell my gay friends they’re going to hell?”

  I giggled. No one had gay friends.

  “How do you know the homosexuals are going to hell? Show me where it says it in the Bible.” Ursula pushed her bangs out of her eye.

  “Leviticus 20:13.” Jared snapped his Bible closed.

  “That’s what some ancient civilization, like, a million years ago thought. They probably thought safe sex meant not sleeping with your mother.”

  “Ursula!”

  Ursula jabbed a finger at her Bible. “Isn’t there a bunch of stuff in here that says women shouldn’t cut their hair and we shouldn’t eat shellfish?”

  “Cutting hair is a whole lot different from being a pedophile.”

  Ursula folded her arms. “What does Jesus say about gays?”

  Jared leafed through his Bible again.

  “Well?”

  An interesting pattern of red blotches appeared on Jared’s neck, and Isabel wrote me a quick note: “I see the face of Elvis on Jared’s neck.” I wrote back, “No, it’s Jesus.”

  The girl with the curly bangs wiggled in her seat, but her hair did not move. It had been sprayed to a crisp. “Ursula … let’s just pray, okay?” she said. Isabel and I rolled our eyes.

  “I think that is a great idea. Let’s pray to the great dude in the heavens,” Jared said. The prayer went on for several lifetimes, during which time I was fairly certain I identified the source of the sock smell: a boy with glasses who was one grade ahead of us and who always looked slightly damp, as though life was so embarrassing it made him perspire constantly. I generally sympathized, but not when it meant smelling his sock feet.

  Finally Jared said, “Amen.” I thought that was the end of it. Then he yelled, “Reverence Round-Up!” so loudly I jumped in my seat. “On the count of three, everyone run around the camp and gather as many people as you can for a prayer circle. Ready, set, go!”

  Isabel was first out of the door, but we were separated by a group of cheering teenage girls. I was just about to exit when I felt a hand clamp around my wrist. “Not you, Triinu.”

  I froze. Jared held my wrist in his hand. I looked at him. He was very muscular and very blond. Even his chest hair was blond. I could see because he wore a tank top with thin straps that revealed the tops of his pecs.

  “That’s a very pretty name – Triinu. Does it come from Estonia like your mom?”

  I nodded.

  “Is it short for anything?”

  “Katariina.”

  “Ka-ta-rii-na.” He drew out the syllables. “Come here and sit next to me.”

  I still clutched the pen and paper on which I had written, “Who thinks Jared Pinter is full of shit? Jesus!” Reluctantly, I sat down. He sat next to me, leaned over, and looked under the veil of my hair as you might look at a child under a tablecloth.

  “Talk much?” he asked. Shy people can’t answer that question, with its innuendoes and un-statements, even though the answer is simply no. Then he touched my leg and murmured, “Your leg is so soft.” No boy had ever touched me, let alone a man who all the high school girls at church said was so handsome he could be a televangelist or a male model.

  Now here I was, alone with Jared. He stroked my leg again. “It’s like silk. Do you know what silk is?”

  I tried to open my mouth and say, “Shove off, dickweed, of course I know what silk is!” but I couldn’t. I couldn’t say anything. That was why I liked church camp. I didn’t have to talk to anyone except Isabel. In middle school, Isabel and I had been teased by every kid a grade above us and a grade below us, but the church kids left us alone, especially now that Isabel’s father had died. We moved in and out of Luther Grove’s rooms without permission, but we were never reprimanded. Everyone assumed I was comforting Isabel in her grief, although I never did, and she never talked about her father. Still, it was a wonderful cover, and we used it to avoid all kinds of unpleasant activities.

  Jared had not gotten the memo. He had separated us. Now he was touching my leg and saying, “You’re a very pretty girl. You should talk more.” I felt at a loss without Isabel. If she were there, she would have made some blunt excuse and we would have left, but she wasn’t there, and Jared stood up and locked the door. “Do you have a boyfriend?” he asked.

  I noticed that he had actually braided the hair beneath his armpits. He was like some pale, blond foreigner with ways unlike our own. A stranger. A savage. I thought maybe we had seen a video about this in social studies. The lesson was not to judge. Other cultures were different and possibly inferior, but it wasn’t their fault.

  “Because you’re definitely pretty enough.”

  Or maybe this was a scene from the Stranger Danger film we were shown in school, the one where the kidnapper read the little girl’s name on her T-shirt. He called her by name, and she thought he knew her. Then the screen faded to black.

  Jared ran his thumb along the frayed edge of my cutoffs. “Are you a senior? You seem very mature for your age.”

  Or maybe this was what I had been waiting for. I had a whole Trapper Keeper notebook full of poems I had written to my imaginary boyfriend. Maybe I wanted this.

  Suddenly I was on my feet. “I need to find Isabel. She’s gonna wonder where I am.”

  At that exact moment, there was a pounding on the door. “Triinu!”

  “There she is now. See you soon, gotta run!”

  It was in that moment of haste that Jared grabbed my hand. It really was his fault. I tried to yank my hand from his grip, so he also stuck out a leg to stop my progress. I was already in motion, and I tripped and fell toward him. In my effort not to fall on him, I stuck out my arm, forgetting the Bic pen that I had been clutching. Then I did fall, and the pen slipped from my grasp as it lodged in Jared’s thigh. He let out a bellow much louder than the one he used to call for the Reverence Round-Up.

  I flew to the door and opened it. All I could see was Isabel, a sea of faces behind her, the result of the Round-Up, presumably. I didn’t need to tell her to run.

  I had known Isabel forever. She was the first stranger to emerge from the milky scent of childhood. At age five, I had recognized my mother, my father, and poor Crystal, a classmate at school who had been badly burned when her house caught fire, but the other children were a blur. Then, suddenly, I was running toward Isabel’s turquoise coat on the playground. Our hands clasped and we were off. And, almost as soon as we started to run, we heard hoofbeats. Behind us was a stampede of phosphorescent horses. We never had to say, “Let’s pretend we have magic horses.” We simply turned around and there they were. “I hear the horses coming,” Isabel would say, and we would mount them, their glittering shoulders carrying us over the roots and rocks that tangled our woodland lots, our sneakers riding
high above their sharp hooves.

  I heard that thunder of hooves as we raced for the maze of deer trails that laced the woods beyond the camp. Into the star-speckled darkness. Into the ferns and the cattails. Into the moon that filtered past the jagged edges of fir branches. I didn’t know if I was running from Jared or from the fear of punishment or simply from the inanity of treating God like some made-to-order buddy when I had read the Bible. I knew what happened when God visited the earth. We cowered in fear. We crucified. And sometimes we walked blindly by, like dumb animals stunned by a bright light, saying, “Why is the tomb so empty?” I knew one thing. It was never simple, and there was more of God in the darkness of our flight than in Jared’s musty cabin.

  Sadly, even God’s soldiers must eat, and several hours later we had returned to the dining hall, lured by the promise of Rice Krispies treats. Just as we were about to enter the hall, Pastor Brown appeared and apprehended us.

  Isabel explained the story as I had related it to her. I kept my head bowed. “He touched her leg!” Isabel exclaimed for the hundredth time.

  “I know.” Pastor Brown sighed. “I know. He shouldn’t have done that. I’ve talked to him. But Triinu, you shouldn’t have stabbed him with a pen.”

  “It was an accident,” I whispered.

  “She should have stabbed him in the eye,” Isabel said.

  “I’m sorry,” I whispered.

  “You’re a young woman now,” Pastor Brown said. “If someone does something you don’t like, you have a right to just say no. You didn’t have to stay with Jared, but you shouldn’t have stuck him with your pen.”

  “Jared locked the door,” Isabel pointed out.

  “Triinu?”

  I was aware of the pastor’s eyes boring into the top of my head.

  “Do you understand, Triinu?”

  I nodded. I couldn’t explain that it wasn’t the lock that held me in that cabin but the dawning realization that I was supposed to be happy with Jared. He could be a male model.

  “Triinu thinks he’s a slug,” Isabel said. “A big, fat, slimy slug.” Actually, I liked slugs better.